Should a married (recently married) woman use their maiden name on facebook? Just edit this page and add your thoughts. * Women who are married ought to include their maiden name as their middle name in Facebook even if it isn't legally their middle name. First of all, it makes it possible for people who knew you before you got married but may have lost to touch to find you. Second, it can be kind of awkward to get a friend request from someone with a common first name and last name you don't recognize saying "Hey, what have you been up to the last 10 years? I'm so glad I found you on Facebook." And then you're like, "Um, sorry, you're Sarah who? Where do I know you again?"