Lily Buffay was the believed mother of Phoebe and Ursula Buffay, until it is discovered that a woman named Phoebe Abbott is their biological mother. Lily, Frank and Phoebe were in a sexual relationship at the same time Frank got Phoebe pregnant. Phoebe gave the twins to Lily and Frank to raise and they later married. Frank abandoned them, divorcing Lily who later remarried to a man who went to prison. The man is her widower. Phoebe tends to use her mother's suicide to get things like a guy's phone or a blueberry muffin. According to a song written by Phoebe, Lily was subsequently cremated.