Imagine a train often comes late. A couple are off to visit friends and have forgotten to pack sandwiches and drinks for the journey. The husband insists on leaving immediately so as to not miss the train. The wife explains that the train is always late and she would prefer to have something to eat during the journey. The husband gets angry and claims she is complaining. The fact is, she is not complaining, she is bitching. Flash forward to the train ride. The Boston express takes off fifteen minutes late as always and the two are sitting on the train, refusing to buy a $15 dollar sandwich on board and are very hungry. The husband comments "I don't know why you didn't insist more that we packed the sandwiches". That is complaining, and not bitching. The two are profoundly different and the