You can't. Love comes to you suddenly and you slip and fell in love with someone who you like. that's called REAL LOVE By treating others the way you want to be treated. Make sure that the person you are looking for offers the same thing to you, unconditional love. Politeness, consideration, good manners, you can never go wrong with those. Good luck :) Change your focus. Rather than focusing on being loved, focus on loving. By loving others, your love will be returned many times over. The best way to be loved is to act lovingly.